Mirror Mirror on the wall, who’s the fairest one of all?
Who doesn’t remember this line from that creepy opening scene in the Snow White movie?
In the animated movie, the mirror appears to be a separate entity, with a face that appears to obediently reply to the evil Queen’s questions. Yet it’s responses always reflected back to her the deep insecurities she harbored.
How many times have we questioned ourselves, in a similar way, in an ongoing struggle to accept our self worth?
I have battled with low self esteem because of a poor body image when I was younger. I’m deeply aware of the subtle and more obvious psychological struggles that comes with the territory. It is a dark and lonely place to be in and I truly empathize with those who are still trapped there.
After fighting this internal battle for many years, I finally came to the conclusion that the root of low self-worth is our tendency to base our value, as a human being, on the perception of other people.
We begin to believe that we need to look a certain way based on the standard yardstick created by society and the media. In this way we unconsciously give our power away and our ability to feel good about ourselves.
However, I would not attribute societies obsession with beauty to shallow dispositions. It goes deeper. Based on Charles Darwin’s evolutionary theories, we know that our instinctual urges center around the notion of “survival of fittest”. Animals look for certain traits and characteristics in a mate to ensure survival of their offspring. In a similar way, beauty (which is based on cultural influences) is unconsciously seen as a sign of fertility and therefore more sought after.
But I don’t think we should allow this to dishearten us if we don’t fit our cultures standard of beauty. We can rise above that by living life from a deeper and more profound realm of existence that originate from our spirits and thereby redefine beauty.
In fact we don’t even need to seek validation to feel good about ourselves. We are spiritual beings created in divine perfection. We are worthy of love and respect by virtue of our existence, and it’s not something we need to earn based on our appearances.
That does not mean that we should not attempt to feel and look better. We simply need to make a shift of taking care of ourselves from a place of high self worth instead of being driven by a sense of inadequacy and seeking validation from others. Any enhancements made to your appearance should be done for your own personal satisfaction and because you feel whole within.
Self love is not a new age cliché. It is absolutely essential to cultivate within yourself if you want to be able to achieve great things in your life and enjoy the ride at the same time. It’s all about genuinely acknowledging your strengths, accepting your flaws and getting comfortable with your vulnerability. It’s about treating yourself with compassion, respect and dignity and expecting others to treat you in the same way.
It’s about believing in your heart that you deserve the best that life has to offer. Because you do!
All my best on your journey,
Question for you: Do you have a tough time accepting what you see in the mirror?What does self-love look like to you? What are some of the things that you can do to begin embracing all parts of your wonderful self?
Did you like this post? Sign up below and I’ll send you more awesome posts like this every week.