When you think about your work, finances, social life, relationships, or the number on a weighing scale, where do you have to be to feel content in each area? You may have noticed that being content has a short shelf-life. It’s not easy to hold onto that emotion unless we intervene with deliberate thoughts about…
The Goldilocks Principle: How to Use it to Achieve Peak Performance
The Goldilocks principle is named as an analogy of “The Three Bears” and states that something must fall within certain margins and stay away from extremes for it to be “just right.” It speaks to the idea that we feel satisfied and at ease when things are balanced, not in excess or lack. The Goldilocks…
When Imitation is the Best Form of Flattery (and when it’s not)
We’ve all heard that imitation is the best form of flattery. When someone copies your social media posts or outfits, they like what they see. If they’re imitating you, they are indirectly praising you. But at what point does imitation become too much? How much copying is acceptable and falls within the realm of fair…
Why it’s Important to Focus on the Process, Not the Outcome For Success
In our pursuit of success, the process takes time and effort. Our society contributes to our disdain for the process of achieving our goals—we reward winners and disregard the ones who tried. We don’t get to see the steps that led to glory. But there’s no shortcut to success, and we must do our due…
Can You Find Your True Self? The 7 Layers of Identity Can Help.
Your true self is what makes you who you are. There are parts of you that have a sense of “rightness” to them, however, finding your true self is not straightforward. It’s a layered process with many stages of realization. The seven layers of identity are one of many systems you can use to find…
Fresh Start Effect: How to Use it Gain Momentum in the New Year
Making a “fresh start” isn’t just a figure of speech; it’s a psychological concept. It refers to the uplifting impact of specific calendar dates representing a new beginning. We perceive particular days with opportune times to metaphorically hit life’s reset button, revisit our goals, or create new ones. However, life resets are not always successful…
Types of Creativity: How To Tap Into Your Creative Strengths
Creative pursuits, like dancing or drawing, are often seen as innate skills, leading many of us to dismiss exploring our talents. We view them as exclusive to professionals in the arts. However, creativity is not just skill-based; it’s a way of thinking. Knowing the various types of creativity and creative thinking will open the doorways…
Codependent Relationships: What They Are and Signs You’re in One
Being dependent on others is good. It makes us human. Voicing our needs from a place of compassion and self-worth brings us closer to others. However, too much dependence results in codependency. In codependent relationships, one partner carries the relationship emotionally, while the other avoids taking responsibility for their part in sustaining the connection. Learn…
What is the Difference Between Fate and Destiny? (and how both impact you.)
Fate or destiny – whatever you call it, is the idea that life is determined by powers beyond our control and has existed for centuries. It’s seen in the mythologies, stories, and religious beliefs of every culture in the world. But there are a few significant distinctions between fate and destiny. Knowing the difference will…
9 Types of Power to Influence People And How To Use It For Good
What does it really mean to have power? Power is the measure of the degree of control you have over events, circumstances, and people to influence them and their actions. However, real power doesn’t depend on where you stand in the social hierarchy. You can learn and use many different types of power to influence…