When we say someone is “out of your league,” we’re referring to how attractive someone is. But it can also be a combination of wealth, social status, and looks, or simply your belief that they are better than you in some way. As shallow as the idea of “leagues” are, the truth is that we…
Do Opposites Attract? The Truth About Being With Someone Different From You.
“Opposites attract” is a popular adage that compares two people to magnets who are attracted to their polar opposites. Many relationship experts call the idea of “opposites attract” a myth, while others support it. However, determining compatibility is nuanced, and personality is organic. Knowing which factors to look for will help you decide whether being…
9 Negative Patterns of Thinking Limiting Your Success (and how to shift them)
Negative patterns of thinking occur when you think about yourself and your situations in a harmful light. While everyone experiences negative thinking now and again, it can escalate if not managed properly. Identifying negative thinking patterns and shifting them to healthier and supportive ways of thinking will transform your mental and emotional health and, ultimately,…
Is Hindsight 20/20? How to Benefit from Looking Back on Your Past.
Most of us have past experiences where we wish we had done things differently. Several phrases describe this regretful feeling, but one that’s most widely used is, “hindsight is 20/20.” When someone says that hindsight is 20/20, they mean that in the future, we can look back and see what we could not see at…
Codependent Relationships: What They Are and Signs You’re in One
Being dependent on others is good. It makes us human. Voicing our needs from a place of compassion and self-worth brings us closer to others. However, too much dependence results in codependency. In codependent relationships, one partner carries the relationship emotionally, while the other avoids taking responsibility for their part in sustaining the connection. Learn…
Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love and How It Impacts Our Relationships
Defining something as complex as romantic love can seem futile. Despite its ambiguity, psychologists have tried understanding the “how” and the “why” of love. One of the most well-known ones is Sternberg’s triangular theory of love. It gives us a broad overview of the many faces of love and how it impacts our connections. Learn…
Types of Relationships: How to Choose Ones That Are Right For You
Relationships are the bedrock of life. Healthy and meaningful connections ground us. As we get older, it becomes harder to find and nurture them. Once we find a partner, they and our children come first, and other relationships become “nice-to-haves.” But there are plenty of opportunities to connect, and you don’t have to be limited…
5 Things That Damage Self Esteem (and how to restore your worth)
Self esteem is your opinion of yourself and your confidence in your abilities. Everyone lacks confidence sometimes, but when low self esteem is a recurring problem, we feel unhappy and unsatisfied. Our self esteem begins in childhood, and as adults, we can undo any damage and develop our self esteem with attention and daily practice….
Social Masks: Why We Hide Our True Self And How to Express Our Truth
All of us have a need to belong and be accepted by others. One way we try to do this is by masking. We adopt appropriate behaviors and personas, unconsciously or consciously, to fit in. While wearing social masks that align with our roles is important, we must watch out for being overly dependent on…
What is Shadow Work and How it Can Help You Understand Your Demons
The shadow self houses all the negative aspects of ourselves that we have difficulty accepting. Many of us are afraid of facing darkness. Our first instinct is to suppress it and conform to societal norms, but your shadow self-craves to be seen and understood. Not coming to terms with it harms your wellbeing. Shining a…