Avoid living a life that lacks meaning and purpose by engaging in self-discovery and knowing what really matters to you. With these tips you will find it easier to recognize what you’re meant to do and use your gifts to make the world a better place. (Estimated reading time: 6 minutes)
“Efforts and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.”
— John F. Kennedy
We’ve all heard about the importance of living a life of purpose. In theory, it seems simple: devote yourself to something meaningful and you’ll find lasting happiness. A noble aspiration that we hope will quench our sense of longing, and comfort us in a world that seems random and impersonal.
Yet most people struggle to discover their purpose. Like Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz, they know that the Emerald City exists but they have no clue as to how to get there and what being there will feel like. Without a good road map to give them direction, they get lost in the wilderness of life. The find that their life lacks meaning and purpose.
Some don’t even feel motivated to find their ideal path towards a meaningful existence, because they’re too wrapped up in getting their basic needs met, and once those needs are met, they work towards building their wealth and financial security to acquire more material possessions.
This tendency, along with a lack of self-awareness, can influence a person to define themselves based on their possessions, and view their assets as an extension of themselves. In this way, their life becomes centered on the pursuit of pleasure, material consumption and fulfilling ego-driven needs.
The Buddhist term for these individuals, whose appetites exceed their need for consumption, is ‘hungry ghosts’. In Buddhist imagery, they are depicted as creatures with huge, empty bellies, thin, long necks and tiny mouths.
These creatures are always on the prowl for food and drink but their small mouths and skinny necks make it almost impossible for them to receive nourishment to satisfy their appetites.
A person who mirrors the ways of a “hungry ghost” will overindulge in various things such as drugs, drinks, smoking, gambling, lust, shopping, or anything else that they think will resolve the brokenness, incompletion and imperfection they feel inside. This is the classic rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle that celebrities and the elite desperately cling on to with hope that it will give them the serenity they so desperately seek.
Sooner or later they realize that these fleeting sources of pleasure cannot change their feelings of emptiness, no matter how much they partake in them. If they’re open to seeing the truth, they’ll see past the delusions of their ego and recognize the deeper needs of their spirit.
Yet very few think of finding purpose as a necessity for their spiritual wellbeing. Living your purpose is more often considered to be a vague and grandiose notion that doesn’t apply to the average Joe or Jane. And the truth is that people can survive without having a clear sense of purpose in life.
But survival is not the objective of life – thriving is! Deep down, we want our life to matter and to make a difference, and we want to get the most out of every day. This longing for something more is a natural instinct we can’t ignore, and is vital to understanding the themes of our personal journey.
A sense of purpose anchors your spirit, helping you feel grounded and centered in your being. No matter what kind of temptations or distractions you encounter, you’ll be able to stay focused and consistent because you know who you are and what you’re living for.
Without purpose, you’ll feel like a solitary leaf, drifting away in currents of the wind, vulnerable to the forces of bullies, corruption and cults.
Whether you’re a corporate crusader, a homemaker or a retiree, you have purpose. Regardless of your income, race, status or background, you have purpose. The bottom line is this: if you’re alive, you have purpose, just as everything else in the Universe does.
Here are are four steps you can take if you feel that your life currently lacks meaning and purpose:
1. Connect with your passion and interests: Discovering your purpose is not so complicated if you’re aware of your interests and the things that you’re passionate about. You can determine your passions by engaging in the process of self-discovery and asking yourself crucial questions such as:
- What matters deeply to me?
- What are some activities that I just lose myself in?
- What lights up my soul and heart, and puts a smile on my face?
- What is it that I can never get tired of doing and something I can’t wait to get out of bed for?
After reflecting on these questions, take an inventory of everything that inspires you and use your responses as road signs to guide you towards your purpose.
2. Find ways to live out and express your purpose: The next step is to figure out how you can channel them in a way that can benefit you, your community and hopefully the rest of the world.
Ask yourself: How can I use my talents and passion to meet a significant need around me? For example, if you love to teach, you can either express it in a teaching career or you can volunteer to teach underprivileged kids in developing countries. If you love to nurture and care for others, you can work as a nurse in a hospital or in homeless shelters, or you can devote all your maternal energy towards raising children of your own.
You’ll be able to generate boundless energy once you discover that there’s something bigger than yourself to serve. Think of how global warming advocates Leo DiCaprio and Al Gore used their platforms in the entertainment and political fields respectively, to incite passion and support for saving our planet from the imminent threats of global warming, within the hearts of millions.
3. Build a PLC attitude: PLC stands for progress, learning and curiosity. The reason why these three qualities are essential components when it comes to creating a meaningful existence is because it makes our reality much more interesting. When we’re driven to continually grow, learn and improve ourselves, we build a sense of momentum that takes us to higher planes of thought and existence. Remaining stagnant and closed off from advancement and expansion makes life drab and pointless. Cultivating a PLC attitude creates a sense of buzz and excitement that’ll make your life one big, enjoyable adventure.
4. Look at life below the surface: When we’re willing to look below the surface of what meets the eye, we can access a different realm of existence where magic-like forces govern the order of the cosmos. If you’re open to it, you can carve out a sense of meaning and a spiritual perspective, by looking for patterns, symbolism, signs and acts of grace.
When we view the happenings in our life from a subjective and intuitive frame of mind, we’ll be able to connect the dots and appreciate the big picture. Practicing spirituality and being open to seeing the infinite wonder that surrounds us will essentially give us that profound sense of connectedness that ignites feelings of wholeness and belonging.
Even though you’re a tiny speck, existing for a brief second in cosmic time. you must know that you have the power to create an impact that can ripple out, long after you’re gone. You can do this by fearlessly living your truth and accomplishing what you believe you’re here to do.
All my best on your journey,
Seline
Question for you: Are you living a life that lacks meaning and purpose? What steps are you willing to take to get more clarity on your purpose?
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Dotty K James says
nice read!
I think one of the most important things in life is to keep moving.
Even if you end up on the wrong path,keep walking and trying to find your way back to the path you need to be on. If you do not have meaning or direction keep walking and try to find some You have have trouble but you will never get anywhere or be able to change your situation if you stand still in one place because you are afraid of where you are and where you may go!
Don’t you think?
SelineShenoy says
Hi Dotty! I totally agree with you. We have to keep moving and searching…that is what the journey is all about! -Seline
James says
I’ve tried so many things… music, writing, reading, singing… but I always think I’m not born for these things… No purpose… 🙁 Just smoking is what I do whole day long…
Anyways, thanks for sharing this piece.. Looking forward to surf some more articles…
SelineShenoy says
Hi James, if you look deeper I’m sure that you will find that you do have a purpose. If nothing else, you’ve definitely got passion and curiosity.
Sunny D says
I really enjoyed this post Seline. Thank you for sharing your light with the world.
Love,
Sunny
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