Youth is a glorious time for many. It is a time when we can explore, experiment and even make a few mistakes (without ending up behind bars that is!) so that we can grow, learn and decide what will work best for us later on in our lives.
However, once you reach your 30s and 40s, there’s subtle (or overt) pressure from society to have everything figured out and be prepared to put down roots. By that I mean we should be ready to choose a life partner, have a steady career path and a solid bank account balance.
Considering the life span of a human being, this convention of creating stability and security at this particular stage in our lives does make sense. But I truly believe that a sense of stability and security does not always have to come from the traditional ways that have been laid out for us.
Despite what others say, building a strong and steady foundation is an internal game, and we can decide which specific vehicles will create that sense of stability within us, based on our personal values and purpose.
There are more and more people embracing unconventional lifestyles, which do not adhere to the customary ways of living, to meet these needs.
One of the biggest reasons that this trend is taking place is because people want “extended youths”, because they were unable to do everything that they wanted to do in their teens and 20s for a variety reasons.
Being a late bloomer myself, I recognize the need for more time to explore and experience more so that I can further increase my self-awareness.
Late bloomers, like myself, may not feel ready for commitments and prefer to take more time to grow and expand their horizons in their quest for self-actualization.
I have seen many people, make the wrong choices in their relationships, careers and health in their younger years, and only begin to figure things out later on.
It may be only be later that they have the wisdom, time and resources to turn their ship around in a direction that feels right to them. By that time many feel they like they wasted their youth and it’s too late.
If you are one of those people, who may have “messed up” in your younger years, I say don’t let the societal pressures of being your “age” stop you from realizing dreams that you should have worked on when you were younger.
35 and want to back-pack in Cambodia? Do it.
42 and want to date with no strings attached? Do it.
32 and want to go back to college? Do it.
Now I’m not saying that you have to be reckless and irresponsible. I’m only encouraging you to be true and authentic to yourself and not let your “age” stop you from doing things that you love.
Yes, there may be naysayers or people that will shake their heads disapprovingly, but they are either envious of your guts or are projecting their insecurities onto you.
Do whatever it is that will make your heart sing and your spirit soar, so that at the end of your life you will feel like you have lived your life fully with a sense of passion and authenticity.
In this way, you can leave this beautiful world with absolutely no regrets.
All my best on your journey,
Question for you: Do feel like you wasted your youth because you didn’t do certain things when you were younger? If yes, ask yourself what is holding you back from doing it right now?
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