“Misfit: In the school social classes of today, a misfit doesn’t fit into any one quite right, not even the outcasts, but may have qualities of each one. True misfits usually do not believe they are emo or goth, and they are usually introverts. Misfits tend to follow their own beliefs, and are usually persecuted for it. Misfits tend to be hated for no reason, have few good friends, and are usually intelligent and mature, and sometimes sort of insane and depressed. Misfits tend not to care about their bad social lives, but some do.” –Urban Dictionary.com
Ever since the dawn of civilization, the dominant forces of social and political institutions have actively suppressed anyone who posed a threat to the established order. This also included people engaged in non-criminal activities that were fueled by pure intentions.
These individuals had radical ideals and beliefs that did not fall in line with the status quo. Their convictions were so powerful that they could easily create a revolution and shake up an entire regime.
The classic historical misfits included gypsies, freedom fighters, heretics or pagans, who chose not to follow the norms and customs of society. Most of them were persecuted and some even faced severe sentences such as death by hanging, beheading or being burned at the stake.
Indeed, the price of being a misfit was very high during eras where monarchies, dictatorships and non-secular states prevailed. Fortunately, we have evolved since then. We now live in a time where individuality and originality is encouraged and even rewarded in most modern sects of society.
However, despite this shift, an undercurrent of conformity still lingers within our social and communal moulds. These influences originate from the same fear-based thought pattern that our ancestors had of dismantling the integrity of the secure and familiar enclaves of their communities.
I’ve always been sensitive to the limitations created by these fear-based thoughts. I’ve seen how it has made so many people in my immediate environment give up their dreams and play small. It’s a common occurrence in my culture where “fitting in” and compromise is a favored way of being.
As a bona fide misfit gifted with a high degree of self-awareness, I’ve always managed to maintain a birds-eye perspective on this matter. For this reason, I have never been afraid to question tradition, and develop my own belief system. But my individualistic streak did not come without a price.
I’ve often felt misunderstood and found it challenging to integrate into my society and my family. It took many years to accept this part of me and realize that the path of a misfit is not an easy one. It is a tricky terrain filled with obstacles, resistance, and frequent feelings of isolation (until you find your tribe).
It’s important to know that this is a caveat that goes with the territory of being a misfit. You will have to learn how to swim upstream and go against the currents of “sameness” in the river of life. This requires a great deal of courage, faith and a willingness to listen to your own inner voice.
History is filled with role models who were considered misfits during their time, such as Mahatma Gandhi, Martin Luther King, Steve Jobs and Einstein (to name a few). It was only after much struggle and strife that they were applauded for their heroic acts and innovations.
What fueled their achievement was a relentless passion to express their personal truths in a way that could benefit humanity. This sense of passion is a defining characteristic of misfits. It is this rare quality that gives them an incredible edge in life. They only need to learn how to channel this energy in a positive way and into a worthy cause.
Here are other reasons why I think misfits usually end of up winning in the game of life:
- They have more fulfilling lives because they listen to their hearts calling: Because misfits are not easily influenced by others, they are more likely to act on their heart’s desires. This almost always results in a life that is more satisfying and fulfilling.
- They are the creators and innovators of our society: Creativity and innovation are born from the realm of unconventional thinking. For this reason, misfits usually make significant contributions that are born from the fertile recesses of their original thought process.
- They are less likely to be targets of abuse and manipulation: Most misfits are deeply self-aware and have high emotional intelligence, making them less favorable targets for manipulators and abusers who prefer to prey on the weak.
- They are more compassionate individuals: Misfits know what it feels like to be considered different and be rejected by others because of it. For this reason, they are more sensitive to pain and suffering of others who are less fortunate.
- They make great leaders: The immense strength and boldness of a misfit often makes them very charismatic and inspiring to many. If their vision is backed with the right intentions, they have the power to lead others towards progress and a better way of living.
So, if you feel like a misfit in your world right now, I say be strong and celebrate whatever you believe makes you different from the people around you. Begin seeing your unique gifts as a double-edged sword that can be used to cut through the tightly knit fabrics of a society bound by fear.
Focus on building your inner strength and developing your talents because the world needs you to step into your greatness and be the magnificent person you were born to be!
All my best on your journey,
Question for you: Have can you begin to accept the unusual parts of yourself strengths? Could it be a reflection of you authentic self and your purpose in life?
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