In our pursuit of success, the process takes time and effort. Our society contributes to our disdain for the process of achieving our goals—we reward winners and disregard the ones who tried. We don’t get to see the steps that led to glory. But there’s no shortcut to success, and we must do our due…
Can You Find Your True Self? The 7 Layers of Identity Can Help.
Your true self is what makes you who you are. There are parts of you that have a sense of “rightness” to them, however, finding your true self is not straightforward. It’s a layered process with many stages of realization. The seven layers of identity are one of many systems you can use to find…
9 Negative Patterns of Thinking Limiting Your Success (and how to shift them)
Negative patterns of thinking occur when you think about yourself and your situations in a harmful light. While everyone experiences negative thinking now and again, it can escalate if not managed properly. Identifying negative thinking patterns and shifting them to healthier and supportive ways of thinking will transform your mental and emotional health and, ultimately,…
Is Hindsight 20/20? How to Benefit from Looking Back on Your Past.
Most of us have past experiences where we wish we had done things differently. Several phrases describe this regretful feeling, but one that’s most widely used is, “hindsight is 20/20.” When someone says that hindsight is 20/20, they mean that in the future, we can look back and see what we could not see at…
How to Cope with Decision Fatigue and Make Smarter Choices
From the moment we wake up, we must deal with a continuous stream of choices. Some are minor, like what to make for breakfast, while others are more difficult, like choosing where to live. Without the right mindset and attitude, the avalanche of decisions we make each day can be overwhelming. The term used to…
What is the Difference Between Fate and Destiny? (and how both impact you.)
Fate or destiny – whatever you call it, is the idea that life is determined by powers beyond our control and has existed for centuries. It’s seen in the mythologies, stories, and religious beliefs of every culture in the world. But there are a few significant distinctions between fate and destiny. Knowing the difference will…
9 Types of Power to Influence People And How To Use It For Good
What does it really mean to have power? Power is the measure of the degree of control you have over events, circumstances, and people to influence them and their actions. However, real power doesn’t depend on where you stand in the social hierarchy. You can learn and use many different types of power to influence…
5 Things That Damage Self Esteem (and how to restore your worth)
Self esteem is your opinion of yourself and your confidence in your abilities. Everyone lacks confidence sometimes, but when low self esteem is a recurring problem, we feel unhappy and unsatisfied. Our self esteem begins in childhood, and as adults, we can undo any damage and develop our self esteem with attention and daily practice….
Social Masks: Why We Hide Our True Self And How to Express Our Truth
All of us have a need to belong and be accepted by others. One way we try to do this is by masking. We adopt appropriate behaviors and personas, unconsciously or consciously, to fit in. While wearing social masks that align with our roles is important, we must watch out for being overly dependent on…
Think Like a Champion: How to Develop a Winning Mindset
The desire to be a champion is universal and something we all share in our deepest core. Whether we want to be a champion in our profession, parenting, or for a cause, we want to do our best. While there’s a tendency to view champions as special and talented, the truth is that anyone can…