Being a beginner is uncomfortable. It demands more attention, care and a willingness to make mistakes. But the only way to make progress in life is by engaging in new learning. Every master was once a beginner who ploughed through the discomfort. Take these five steps to become a good beginner who learns things quickly and efficiently. (Estimated reading time: 6-7 minutes)
“In the beginner’s mind, there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s, there are few.”— Shunryu Suzuki
Do you remember the last time that you tried learning something new?
If you’re anything like me, you probably felt uncomfortable and awkward.
I never used to like putting myself in a position where I didn’t look like I had it all together. The perfectionist in me ran the show and it prevented me from venturing forth into new territory.
This all changed after I met an elderly lady in her 80s during one of my flights to the US. We got into a conversation where she shared with me her excitement about recently signing up for a tango class.
My look of astonishment made her smile and say, “I’ve always pushed my boundaries. It keeps me young! There are so many wonderful things to experience in life and I don’t want to miss out on any of them!”
That conversation was a game-changer for me. It got me wondering about why I and so many other people avoid trying things out for the first time. After all, we were all beginners at practically everything when we were born. And as kids, we were excellent beginners.
If you’ve ever looked into the eyes of a child, you’ll see a sparkle of curiosity in their eyes. Whether it’s learning how to walk, riding a bicycle or building a Lego castle, they’re okay with looking clumsy in the process of learning and asking for help when they need it.
So why does our beginner instincts fade out as we grow older? The two main culprits are our mind’s need for efficiency and the fear of looking incompetent.
Our minds are functioned to preserve our energy by sticking with patterns of behavior and thought that are familiar to us. Attempting something new requires more time, effort, and focus. It just takes more work!
The fear of looking incompetent comes from a lack of self-confidence. Being a beginner at anything makes you feel like an amateur who has to dependent on others, especially in the early stages of development.
We prefer to stick with things that we’re good at because that’s where we feel our strongest and where we’re more likely to get praise and recognition.
But the truth is that if we want to make progress and leap towards our dreams, we’ll encounter new subjects and skills that we will need to master on a regular basis. Whether you want to learn to play the guitar or use a new software for work, you’ll have to accept the reality of facing a learning curve as you go through the standard stages of gaining proficiency.
According to research, it takes 21 days for our mind to get used to something because that’s how long it takes our brain to create a new neural pathway. During those 21 days, it’s crucial that we commit to building routines, structures and, most importantly, a ‘beginner’s mindset’ to stay on track.
The term ‘beginner’s mindset’ is a concept from Buddhism, which states that our “original mind” is rich and sufficient within itself. An open and empty mind is always ready for anything and the possibility of growth.
Zen Buddhists encourage their followers to adopt an attitude of eagerness and lack of preconceptions when studying a subject, even at an advanced level, just as a beginner would. Like an empty vessel, our minds become receptive to relevant and useful data that gets poured into us.
Some famous masters of their craft exemplified the qualities of a good beginner. Albert Einstein credited his success almost entirely to his inability to lose his sense of childlike wonder. Even after accumulating tremendous knowledge about physics, he was okay with temporarily letting go about what he already knew and approaching problems with the mindset of a complete beginner.
With this beginner’s mindset, he would ask many questions and tackle problems from unconventional angles, and in the interim, he’d make radical discoveries that changed our understanding of the world.
Like Einstein, all experts were once beginners in their field. They started with a clean state and remained humble while cultivating their genius. They believed in their potential and fueled their efforts with hope.
And that’s what we should all strive to do. When we move past the initial phases of growth, we’ll eventually get into a state of flow and attract everything we need to take things a step further.
Just as how a plane requires that initial momentum to take off, we need to exert extra effort to get things going in the preliminary stages of development. Once you’ve reached cruising altitude, things get easier.
Whether you want to develop your competencies as a professional, dabble in a new hobby or enhance your relationship and social skills, these five key steps will guide you on how to develop a beginner’s mindset:
1. Embrace humility: Being a beginner requires that you adopt a sense of humility and become comfortable with ‘not knowing’. Overcome your ego’s need to portray an image of perfection to others and don’t let your pride get in the way of accepting your lack of knowledge and reaching out to the right people who can enlighten you. When you let go of your fear of looking silly because you appear to not know what you’re doing, you open the door to deeper insights and wisdom.
2. Adopt a healthy approach towards learning: A good beginner is someone who loves the prospect of learning and views it as a fun and exciting endeavor instead of something that’s burdensome and makes them look incompetent. They’re comfortable with uncertainty and making mistakes because they accept it as part of the deal of being a novice. Learning requires trial and error and experimentation, which can only happen once we detach from our need to control everything.
Learning is much easier when we’re working on an idea, project and business that we’re passionate and curious about, and that we’re willing to invest ourselves in. If you have to learn something that does not interest you, try connecting it with your long term vision and goals to connect with the material.
3. Create habits, routines and structures: As the saying goes – practice makes perfect. When you’re a beginner, you should try to make time for disciplined learning routines. You need to create structures and habits that will facilitate the growth of your knowledge and gradually build your skill set. Some useful habits include taking good notes and asking plenty of questions after thoughtful analysis. Take the time to review your progress, internalize your milestone accomplishments, and identify what’s not working and tweak your strategies accordingly.
4. Find good teachers: One of the best ways to make significant strides in your learning endeavors and avoid common pitfalls is by seeking the advice of experts such as mentors, coaches and teachers. Why? Because these individuals have learned the ropes and have knowledge based on nuances and hands-on experience. They can give you valuable advice and pointers that will save you time and energy, and also bolster your creative thought process so that you can put your own unique spin on things.
5. Believe in your potential: Without a solid foundation of self-belief, it’s tough to maintain your willpower and faith during the transitory beginner phases. You must believe in your abilities and be patient with yourself as you stumble along a new learning trajectory. You’ll have to silence your inner critic and avoid comparing yourself to those who are further ahead of you in your specific area of interest. Most importantly, be kind to yourself and take the time to acknowledge all the efforts that you’ve made so far.
Whenever you attempt to take on new challenges, you demonstrate your willingness to engage in the process of alchemy. In doing so, your creative potential gets unleashed, and you’ll feel motivated to express ideas that bear the unique blueprint of your genius.
All my best on your journey,
Question for you: What are some the strategies that you’re willing to try to be a good beginner and adopt a beginner’s mindset?
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Angie Lopez says
I have to say that listening is hard. it is easy to hear what someone says but there is a big difference between hearing and truly listening to someone, you know.
I have had to work on this for a while but I think I am getting better and I try to make a conscious effort to listen and be mindful of what others are saying and thinking!
do you have any materials that can help me with this?